Man, what a conundrum. So, apparently, Ing is still not really talking at daycare. She'll talk to her teachers one on one, but doesn't really talk to the kids, and her teacher is in agreement with me that it's a fuckton of kids for one room, but she doesn't have the authority to change that, of course. I've talked to the director about it, too, but you know, it's not going to change at that level either. Ing's teacher thinks that part of it is that she's "smarter than the rest" and "bored," but still, while 21 kids with 3 teachers is within the state ratios (if at the max) that is A LOT OF KIDS. (Even the teachers are frustrated by it, as well.)

Of course I want to send her to the Awesomest Preschool ever, but she needs to be potty trained, and that isn't happening except as 1 step forward, 2 steps back, and I don't want to make it An ISSUE. Regardless, they don't have an opening, and probably won't until June. I'm feeling more and more just… dejected … about where she is now. She's safe, but… she's not talking to kids. I showed the teacher some cell phone video of her at the table (singing ANNIE SONG! at the top of her lungs) and the teacher was like "You are kidding me. I've never seen that."  So, now I'm conflicted. There's current preschool, where, well, she's safe, and it's familiar, but I think she is overwhelmed by it, and it's really fucking sad to think my kid doesn't talk to other kids, even ones she's known for 2 years, now.  There's dream preschool, where she has to be potty-trained and they have to have an opening, neither of which has happened. In between, there is this other daycare center.

It's near our house, no farther away than the dream preschool, and only .4 mile farther than our current daycare (which is .9 miles away. Yeah, I know. Tiny commute= awesome.) I think that they would have an opening for her sooner than dream preschool, because they don't require potty training. They are smaller, as well, but I am not sure of the ratios, exactly, and obviously that matters, but a big pro is that they take babies, and have just 8 in the room at a time. (That's how our current center started, but now they have an 8 baby room, and a 12 baby room, and 12 is WAY too fucking many, ratios be damned.) I've heard good things about it, but then, who IS going to say "oh, stay away from my daycare, it sucks!" I'm going to call and schedule a tour, I think, just to check it out. But the likelihood is that they would have an opening before Dream Preschool, and that's where I get conflicted. Do I put my eggs in the basket of hoping for potty training and an opening at Dream place, or just go with a (hopefully) smaller situation? I just don't know.